Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Notre Dame vs. BYU

If I could sum up my weekend in one word it would be COLD.

A few other options would include: frigid, icy, intense, arctic, Siberian, benumbed, biting, glacial, and polar. (Thank you, Thesaurus.com!)

Remember how lovely last year's BYU vs. Notre Dame game was?  It was so nice that my dad decided to come back for it again.  I warned him that Indiana in November can be a whole different beast than Indiana in November, but he wouldn't be deterred.  Besides, this year his youngest brother, Bryce, would be tagging along.  Bryce's wonderful wife, Janee, sent him out as a 50th birthday present.  (It seemed like a really great gift at the time.  After the cold we suffered, now I'm seriously wondering about her intentions...) ((Kidding.))

Dad and Bryce got in Friday evening, a bit later than planned due to lovely Delta.  We won't go into Delta.  But they made it safe and sound and we got to visit a bit before bed.  The next morning was a pancake jamboree, which is definitely the preferred breakfast of choice around these parts.  (The only problem with pancake jamborees is that you can only make so many pancakes at once, you know?  I need a giant, mega griddle so I can cook 10 pancakes at once instead of just 4.  And my kids always want all of their pancakes right then and can't seem to understand that there's a limit of how many I can cook at one time.  Okay, back to football.  But sheesh.  Pancake problems.)

Once the babysitter arrived (poor Tess and Cole weren't invited), we were northward bound to South Bend!  The weather didn't seem too bad at first, but the closer we got to our destination the more daunting it appeared.  By the time we stopped for lunch at Culver's I knew that we were in for a rough day.

It was cold.

I thought I had brought enough layers for the boys, but now I'm kicking myself for not making them bring their snow bibs and boots. Oh well, live and learn.

We had a good hike from where we parked up to campus.  My dad snapped this shot as we were walking, and I show it only because it is such an AWFUL picture.  Seriously, very single person in this shot looks like a dork.


This one is a little bit better.  By this point I was already holding Josh's hand because he was already complaining about the cold.  And by complaining I mean whining and crying and begging to go home.  I told him to buck it up, because that's the kind of mom I am.  Plus, whining makes me extra un-compassionate towards my kids.


Once again we saw the band show and the Scottish dancing guys whose names escapes me right now.  The ones in the kilts and the tall hats.  Anywho, they do a victory clog, which made me wonder why the Cougars don't have a victory clog.  That's something those Cougarettes should look into.  I really like the phrase "victory clog".

Here's Spencer, trying to keep warm


Lance and I - we are not so good at the selfies with my phone for some reason.  The fact that snow was shooting at us probably didn't help.


Here's the only picture I have of my Uncle Bryce and Dad from the whole weekend.  Dang it. (I know, I should have taken some pictures after church on Sunday, but there was lunch to eat and Duck Dynasty to watch.) ((You read that right.))


During the concert Josh turned into Cousin It.  It was at this point that I decided 7 was probably still a bit young for an event like this, especially with sub-zero temperatures.


Spencer and Lance in front of the infamous Touchdown Jesus.


I tried to get a family shot, but Spencer wouldn't cooperate and Josh was still impersonating Cousin It.


I told you we are not so good at the phone selfies.  Camera selfies? Yes.  Phone selfies? No. Lance kinda looks like the Emperor from Star Wars and I look a bit tipsy.  Lovely.

We finally made our way into the stadium.  This year we sat in a much older section, which meant SUPER SMALL benches.  Seriously, moving people up and down the row was a nightmare.

So were the temperatures, with windchills making it feel like nine degrees.  Yikes.


Once we were seated for a while the boys really got cold because they weren't moving anymore.  Uncle Bryce helped them out with some hot chocolate. (What a great guy!)


Our view of the stadium this time.


Not quite so awe-inspiring when you feel like dying from the cold.


Lance helping Spencer put some warmers in his shoes.  I like this picture because Josh looks so puffy.


I like this picture because Spencer looks a bit drunk on hot chocolate.


Speaking of drunk, there were a bunch of guys sitting right behind us who were combating the cold with liquid heat.  These were red-headed Irish Catholic die-hard Notre Dame fans, and boy were they drunk and obnoxious.  (Stereotypes come from somewhere, people.)  Fortunately, they weren't mean or belligerent drunks, so when I got after them for using foul language in front of the boys they were appropriately sheepish.

The first quarter was exceptionally slow.  By the half Spencer was in tears, so Lance and I decided to take them back to the car.  Dad and Bryce (fool hardy die hard Cougar fans) decided to stick it out.  Before leaving the stadium we decided to make a pit stop.  The bathrooms were jam packed with women trying to keep warm!  While waiting in line I saw a mom with an extremely angry (and probably cold) 18 month old and decided that life could probably be worse for me at that point.

On the way out of the stadium Josh declared "Well, I had a little fun."  Kids are funny.  (I think he knew this was a special treat, but he also knew that he had been miserable for most of it.)

We made it back to the car and within minutes Josh had his coat off and was demanding snacks.  Apparently the cold didn't permanently damage him in any way.


Dad and Bryce got back to the car about an hour later; once they knew the Cougs wouldn't win they figured there was no sense in waiting around to watch them lose.  It was a long but fairly pleasant drive back to Lafayette.

Dad and Bryce went to church with us the next day and got to see how fun it is with Tess and Cole.  (Don't get me started on Cole.  That child...)  We came home for lunch, a couple of episodes of Duck Dynasty (yes) and some visiting. And then it was time to leave.

It was a very quick trip, and a very cold trip, but I'm happy that Dad and Brcye could come.  It's always so nice to have family visit!  (Even if you have to endure arctic winter blasts!)

Friday, November 22, 2013

Best Job Chart Ever

For the past month or so Cole has gotten up for breakfast, eaten, and then gotten back into bed for a good 30 minutes or so.  This happens 3-4 times a week.  I thought it was just because the weather's gotten colder.

However, this morning he was looking at his job chart and naming off each job.  He got to the third one down and instead of saying "make bed" (which he never does) he said "go back to bed".

Mystery solved. 

I wish "go back to bed" was on my job chart.  I would check it off every day!

Thursday, November 21, 2013

Compassionate Service

So I've been the 2nd counselor in our ward's Relief Society for a good two months now.  Most parts are enjoyable, some parts are not.  Lots of work, lots of thinking, lots of worrying over our sisters, lots of scheduling and negotiating and hashing things out, and lots and lots of praying.

It's been a learning experience, to say the least.

I've always joked that I could never be RS president because I am just not a naturally compassionate person.  This is still true.  But I'm working on it.  (Have you heard/read president Eyring's message from the last conference, "Bind Up Their Wounds"?  An amazing message about compassion.)

Last weekend, after helping at a wedding for 5 hours, a good friend of mine and I joked about how we just aren't those people who naturally want to serve others.  We need a little push in that direction, and then we still don't always really and truly want to do it - we do it and it's hard because it's work and not true compassionate service.  I'm working on this as well.

In fact, tonight I really learned a lesson about compassionate service.  I didn't go out and serve anyone or show any great acts of faith.  Instead, our RS president and I just visited a couple of sisters in the ward.

The second sister we visited turned 86 years old today.

She is amazing.

We spent an hour chatting, with her telling us all about her life: where she grew up, how she converted to the church, all about her children and family, how life is different now compared to 50 years ago, the mission she and her husband served in Greece, what life was like during WWII.  It was really, really interesting.  (And it really made me miss my Grandma Roper - this lovely sister reminded me so much of her!)  (I just realized that last sentence made it sound like Grandma Roper passed away.  She is alive and well.  But I still miss her because she lives so far away.)

You could tell this sister just needed a good audience, and Sarah and I were more than willing to oblige.  By the end of the evening I was in love with her and totally willing to help her out in any way that she needed.

On the way home I thought about this.  I thought about how it's so much easier to have compassion for people that you know and love.  I thought about how I've been praying to have more compassion, and how this still seems to be a struggle for me sometimes.  (That dang natural man!!)  Maybe what I should work on first is getting to really know and love the sisters in our ward, and then compassion will come more naturally.  Making an effort to visit them is one way to do this, but another, better way is through serving them.

I think this could be cyclical in nature: the more I serve, the more I grow to love, and the more compassion I feel, and then the more I'm willing to serve.  I just need to jump in somewhere in this cycle and get to work!

I feel really blessed to be in this calling.

p.s.  Giant kudos to Lance for supporting me in this.  Sometimes we're like to ships passing in the night: he comes home and I kiss him goodbye and head out the door.  I'm gone more often than not at bedtime, which everyone knows is the worst time to be at home. Lance, you're the best.  I love you.

Spencer Got His Bear!

Last night Spencer was awarded his Bear for Cub Scouts.  He finished a full month before his birthday - woohoo! (There were points where I thought he'd never finish, for Pete's sake.  It was like pulling teeth!)

Due to a bit of a scheduling snafu I had a presidency meeting at the same time as pack meeting, so I was only able to run in at the last minute, take this not-so-great picture, and then sneak out.  Oh well, better than nothing!

Congratulations, Spencer!  You did a great job.  Now we have a Webelo in the house!  (And now I have to sew another badge on the shirt.  Yaaaayyy...)

Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Maren's Terrible, Horrible, No-good, Very Bad Day. Also, There Was A Tornado.

Sunday did not start well.  It also did not end well.  The middle wasn't so great, either.

We were all set and ready to go to church.  Kids all dressed and in the car.  Me grabbing last minute items from the house.  Lance starting the car.  Only, no.  The car would not start.  It was dead.  Mostly dead.  There still seemed to be a little power, but it just would not start.

I remembered coming home the night before and seeing the driver's side door partially open.  D'oh.

We tried jumping the battery.  Nothing.  I had to be at church to take care of RS stuff, so Lance got to stay at home with Tess.  Cole claimed up and down that he really wanted to go to church, but I didn't believe him.  Apparently Lance did, because Cole was put in our little Camry with his brothers.

Turns out, four year olds lie.

Cole did NOT want to be at church.  He wanted to be naughty.  He was pretty typically naughty during Sacrament Meeting, but nothing I couldn't handle.  But then he FREAKED OUT in Primary, at one point kicking off his shoes and throwing them across the room.

*sigh*

So I left Sunday School to rescue the Primary workers from my monster child, and decided that the best thing to do was to take him to Sunday School with me.  We sat in class for a while, and I quietly explained that this was "Mommy Primary", and wouldn't "Colie Primary" be more fun?

No.  No it would not.  (At least according to Cole.)

Then I talked about how we all have jobs to do at church.  I explained Daddy's job (doing Cub Scouts stuff and Pack Meetings), Mommy's jobs (helping in Relief Society), and Spencer, Josh, Cole, and Tess's jobs.

"What is Colie's job at church?"
"Going to Primary."
"That's right.  Everyone has a job to do, and your job is to go to Primary."
"I want to go to Primary."
"Will you be a good boy?"
"Yes."
"Will you throw your shoes?"
"No."
"Okay then."

Despite the fact that he had lied before, he seemed genuine this time and I believed him.  Turns out he was telling the truth because he happily went back to Primary and behaved himself.

The fun didn't end, though.  RS was a bit stressful, with starting late and having the Stake (it was ward conference) and just general RS calling mayhem.  After church was over I needed to get some stuff done for an upcoming activity, but all three boys were going CRAZY because there was cake in the kitchen and they wanted cake but they didn't want to get cake by themselves and would I take them and Mommy-Mommy-MOMMY!!

Plus I wore heels that I forgot really hurt my feet.  So by then I was annoyed and in pain. If I were a bear I would have probably eaten someone.

I finally got everyone in the car, only to be told that Josh had left his scriptures somewhere in the church.

Growl.

No way was I going back in there with three crazy boys, so I hobbled back into the church alone.  His scriptures were right by the little pulpit in the RS room - where ward choir practice was currently underway.  I knew that if I went back without his scriptures he would FREAK OUT, so I totally interrupted choir to get Josh's beloved, beat up copy of The Book of Mormon.  (Sorry, Renee.)

By the time I got home my mood matched the weather - dark and stormy.  I didn't want to eat lunch while watching Duck Dynasty, as we usually do after church.  (I know.)  I just wanted to bundle up on my bed and watch Grey's Anatomy on Hulu.

My computer had other, more suicidal plans.  I picked it up off of the kitchen counter, where I keep it, and started to walk out of the kitchen.  The cord got caught on a cabinet handle, it tugged back, I tripped, and the laptop fell.  On the hard kitchen floor.

Dead.  Dead dead dead.

Tears.  Tears tears tears.

Lance the Computer Czar was able to pull all of my info off of the laptop, but the screen was destroyed.  No coming back from that, and no sense getting it replaced when for a couple of hundred dollars more I could get a brand new, better laptop.

More tears.  Tears tears tears.

We looked online for a new laptop and decided that it would be better to wait for Black Friday or Cyber Monday deals.  TWO WEEKS without a laptop?!  The horror!!

By this point I was done.  Done done done.

I decided it would probably be better if I didn't touch anything else all day, so I settled onto the couch to watch some Duck Dynasty with Lance.

Halfway through the first episode the weather radio went crazy.  And the sirens starting going off.  And the heavens opened and the winds howled and for the first time in the 9.5 years we've lived in the Midwest we woke a sleeping child to take cover in the basement.  Tess was pretty disoriented and sleepy and a bit scared.  So was I.

And then the power went out.

This was odd, because our power rarely goes out.  Then we realized that we couldn't make phone calls on our cells or access the internet.  Eerie.

The storm passed and we decided to go upstairs to play a game of LIFE. (One of Spencer and Josh's favorites.)  It was about as fun as playing LIFE with 4 kids can be.  (Read: not very.)  Josh decided he wanted two wives.  Lance had a dozen children.  Spencer was only halfway through the board by the time the rest of us were finished, but he still managed to win it all.

It got dark and we enjoyed peanut butter and honey sandwiches on a candle lit table.  We read for an hour out of "Fudge-a-Mania", solved Josh's mysterious stomach pains with some oatmeal cookies, and had a quick visit from our friends the Wallins. (Who live only a mile away and had power.)

By the time we got kids into bed I was feeling a little better.  I had learned there was no school the next day because 2 schools in our district had been severely damaged, and no one was sure which schools had power.  Other homes and factories in town had been damaged, and portions of Kokomo (which is in our stake) had been demolished.  A dead car, a rotten Sunbeam, and a broken laptop?  Not so bad, really.

By 9:30pm the power had been restored.  By noon the next day my car had a new battery and was working fine.  And Lance said I could use his laptop when I needed it.

It was a bad day, but it could definitely have been much, much worse.  And for that I'm grateful.

Friday, November 15, 2013

Facebook Statuses

I feel like lately I've been doing a lot more on Facebook than on this blog; mainly because it's just so much more convenient to throw out a few lines rather than sit down and give thought to a whole blog post.  So here are some of my favorite FB statuses for the last little bit, mainly so I'll have a record of them in years to come. (A few are marked as my ***favorites***.  Now that I look at them, most of those involve Cole and his antics.)

You know it's gonna be a fun day when the furnace guy leaves you a rather terse voicemail about having to reschedule our appointment because I wasn't at home when he got there. (I was dropping Cole off at preschool.) The voicemail was left at 9:20. Our appointment was for 9:30.

Needless to say I had a rather terse phone call with the furnace company shortly after.

Hearing the sounds of "Don't touch the floor - it's lava" coming from the basement makes me happy. 

What was supposed to be a light cleaning of the kitchen turned into a very deep cleaning that included all of the cupboards, drawers, and floor, plus cleaning out the fridge and fixing a broken fridge drawer with Gorilla Glue, a clamp, and a curious four year old.

I'm pretty sure no one should be allowed in the kitchen for at least 48 hours.

RIP Blockbuster Video: you were my first "real" job. If you taught me anything, it was the importance of getting a college education so I wouldn't have to work with the general public for the rest of my life! (An internship in Wal-Mart management sealed the deal on that idea. Oy.)

I totally forgot that there's a chapter in SuperFudge that talks about how Fudge learns about who Santa really is. I'm reading this to Josh and (kinda) Cole, my two most staunch Santa supporters. I would have skipped the chapter, but Josh had already seen the title and was excited to read it. So I faked my way through the more revelatory parts, changing sentences here, leaving out paragraphs there, all on the fly and *ta-da!* childhood Christmas innocence saved!

Being a mom is sometimes very tricky.

Maren Roper Madsen
Beautiful fall day at the temple! 
Photo: Beautiful fall day at the temple! :-)



Every once in a while that crazy-go-nuts tantruming toddler that was Josh comes for a visit. This afternoon is one of those times.

There's this commercial that keeps coming on tv that has an announcer that says "What's better than pie?" and every time it says that I think "Brownies!" or "Cookies!" or "Ice cream!" (According to the commercial the answer is "free pie". I beg to differ.)

Funny is hearing your 7 year old son singing "This Girl is on Fire" when he thinks no one is listening. How does he even know that song?!

Sing it, Josh.

***FAVORITE***
Just learned that on Halloween night, when Lance couldn't answer the door in time Cole would open it up and yell "Hey!! What are you doing at my house?!" And then slam the door in their faces.

Guess the trick was on them.
Spent the morning patching the holes in little boy jeans, only to come upstairs and discover Cole teaching Tess how to slide on the kitchen floor on her knees.

Very happy birthday wishes to my lovely grandmother, Reva Roper! Grandma has many wonderful talents, but my favorite is her amazing ability to make everyone feel like her favorite child/grandchild/friend/whatever. (That said, we all know I'm her most favorite... right?) 

Happy happy birthday, Grandma!!

***FAVORITE***
The Madsen children always seem to make a big impression during the Primary Sacrament Meeting program. This year it was Cole yelling "Get me out of here!!!" at several quiet moments from the front of the stand as well as scowling 90% of the time (but he did say his part!), and Tess freaking out 30 seconds after she got up there to sing with her nursery class (the bottom pouting lip was in full force as she ran back to me).

Good times.

Tess and I got to ride a tractor, pick a pumpkin, and roll around in the mud this morning. Thanks for the great field trip, Deidra Hartwell!
Photo: Tess and I got to ride a tractor, pick a pumpkin, and roll around in the mud this morning.   Thanks for the great field trip, Deidra Hartwell!


Exactly once a year I eat one candy corn. And then exactly once a year I say "bleeechhchhhch!" and try to find something to get rid of the taste in my mouth.

***FAVORITE***
Why would anyone willingly fill their shoe with juice? Answers to questions like this can only be given by a two-year-old, and mine won't tell me.

When it comes to folding laundry, Cole the 4-year-old is much, much better than Lance the 35-year-old at remembering whose clothes are whose.

Spent three hours cleaning out the garden this morning with the help of two small children. (Read: it took twice as long as needed.) And I'm still not done. As a bonus, I have a lovely rash up and down my legs even though I wore long pants.

Stupid garden! Good riddance.

Until next Spring, when I fall in love with you again.

25 years later and 4th grade math word problems are still giving me issues.

Even though it's not quite October this big guy somehow snuck into my cart and demanded a ride home. 
Photo: Even though it's not quite October this big guy somehow snuck into my cart and demanded a ride home.  :)


Got a flat on the way to cleaning the church. (The blessings of service...?) A big THANK YOU to Christopher James Hartwell for helping Lance change the tire in the rain!

Reason #539 why Cole is awesome: He has taken to yelling "I'm a-firin' the lasooors!!" when he pees. #4yearoldsarefun

Spencer just got mad at me because I can't multiply three digit numbers by three digit numbers in my head so I can check his homework. I told him when he (finally) memorizes his basic multiplication tables I'll get to work on the three digit ones. Scowls all around. #fourthgradeishardforeveryone

Just had an argument with Cole over who the president is. I pointed to the TV and said something like "That's president Obama. He's the president of the United States. He's in charge of our country." To which Cole replied "No, I'm in charge. I'M the president. ME!"

I spent five minutes trying to change his mind.

Five minutes wasted.

Telling my non-FB-loving husband "happy anniversary" seems a little pointless here, so I'll tell myself.

Good job on being married for 13 years, Maren! You rock!
Cole: Mommy! Mommy! Mommy! What are those sounds?!
Me: Cicadas.
Cole: What is that?
Me: Bugs. Big bugs in the trees.
Cole: Oh. Inside! Inside! INSIDE!!!

Discovered a new incentive to keep up my pace during the end of my morning runs: middle and high schoolers waiting at bus stops. #someinsecuritiestakeawhiletodie

***FAVORITE***
Josh: Mommy, why are people with glasses so much more attractive?

(I promise, he said attractive. I think the lady at the optometrist office must have said something like this.)

Me: Because they make you look smarter. And everyone knows that people who are smarter are much more attractive.

Josh: Yeah, that makes sense. I thought so.

Spencer (who had been listening in and suddenly realizing what this means for his glasses-less self): HEY!

Man alive, first graders are a hoot!

Two and a half hours at Chuck E Cheese: four happily worn out kids, one exhausted mother, one significantly richer rodent.

Tess just blamed Cooke Monster as the reason for why she was still awake and hour past her bedtime.

Two year olds be crazy.

Grandpa and Grandma have only been gone for a couple of hours and my kids are already going crazy because they aren't getting CONSTANT ATTENTION AND ENTERTAINMENT.

Grandparent spoilage complete.

***FAVORITE***
Me: Cole, do you want to go crazy?
Cole: Yes... No. I already went to there.

Truth.

Celebrated Pioneer Day with a lovely evening at Pizza Hut and Columbian Park with our Hoosier Fam. I'm pretty sure my ancestors would approve. — with Gigi Andriese Ream and Craig Ream.

Oh Indiana sweet corn - how I love you!
*nom*nom*nom*

I dont care how good it tastes, I'm never making blueberry syrup again.
Photo: I dont care how good it tastes, I'm never making blueberry syrup again.


***FAVORITE***
"Time for another day in nursery, where the only people who escape are the kids." - Lance Madsen, 2+ year nursery veteran

My husband cracks me up.